Two disparate events moved me to write this week about the drawbacks of stoicism. First, I completed a round-trip of some 15 hours duration to have Daisy’s (my dog) lameness properly diagnosed by a specialist vet who, rather inconveniently, lives in another country. It turns out that she’s been hiding multiple significant musculoskeletal issues (stoically) […]
Recovery Might Not Be What You Think It Is
In therapy, I am looking out of the window at the gravestones. I didn’t deliberately choose a therapist whose office was in a cemetery but now that I think about it, there is something peaceful and fitting about talking of the past surrounded by the dead. Our conversation is about the need to please my […]
Is Agreeableness Overrated?
A number of things have converged this week causing me to think about how we connect to others and, more specifically, the role that agreeableness plays in doing so. The first was a message from my daughter telling me that she’d split up with her boyfriend. They’ve been trying to address their differences for a […]
Secure Attachment
I wrote this piece some years ago but never posted it. I’m not sure why. I came across it this week when I was looking for a systemic family therapist and realised how hard it is to find good therapists with availability. I’m about to do some further training and need to be in therapy […]
A Moving Experience
I’ve spent much of the past week lying in a hammock reading books being gently caressed by a soft breeze floating in from the river Alde, while thinking about vulnerability and regret. Holidays are, for most of you, I know, a source of great excitement and pleasure, but I don’t really feel that way about […]
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